There are many emotions that come with getting married. The stress of the perfect wedding while trying to wrap your head around becoming a wife and actually living with someone for the rest of your life. The thought of doing someone else’s laundry everyday, picking up after his college-boy-bachelor tendencies all the while loving him, praying for him and enjoying life together is somewhat overwhelming. Getting married is a huge step in life. It is life changing, but I promise that God knows what He is doing and He will bless your marriage if you ask Him to!
My husband and I have been married for 5 years now, and I feel like I’ve learned a few things along the way. I’ve learned that in order to keep things in order, you have to put God #1. Simple and point blank. Put God #1 and everything else will fall into place. God first, husband second, kids third and then everything else falls into place. I’ve learned to choose your battles, that compromise is everything and that you don’t have to agree on everything. I’ve learned that having someone in your life everyday to talk to, pray with, and love is one of the most important things in life. I’ve learned that you can fall in love many times over again, and the love gets stronger and deeper with every emotion and talk. I’ve learned something valuable with every argument, every tear, every heartbreak along with every laugh, every smile, and every pair of underwear folded (finding which are the favorites, which aren’t but still need to stay in the drawer and which laundry soap is important to use). With every year that passes, I just feel blessed. I feel blessed that God chose me for this life and that I get to do life with him.
I’ve fallen more in love with my husband 5 years later, and here are 8 reasons why:
He’s Not a College Boy Anymore
There is something so sexy about seeing a man with a spatula. I love that he cooks for us, cleans (sometimes), and is focused on adult things. When we got married, we were just out of college (him one year and myself 2 years) but life has changed so much since then. He’s learned to love the simplicity of home life, and that I love.
He Just Gets Me
He can know what I’m going to say before I even say it. I can give a simple glance or look and he already knows what I’m thinking. This might come with being together for almost 10 years, but I know he just gets me. I know that he is always going to have my back, tell me when I’m being ridiculous or just be there to listen (or pretend to listen) when I need him to. He needs me and I need him. That is love.
He is a Provider
Providing for our family is the biggest blessing a man can give his wife. Knowing that our family is taken care of because of his hard work makes my love for him grow more deeply everyday. Not a day goes by that I don’t thank God for him being able to provide for us so I can enjoy my kids while they are little. It has been one of the biggest blessings after becoming a mother. We owe all of the glory to God that we live the life we do. It goes without saying that staying in alignment with God’s Will. I love that my husband is willing to trust God and know that we will be taken care of when we’re obedient.
He Is An Amazing Daddy
The moment I saw him set eyes on Laikyn for the first time when she was born and tears roll down his face….that moment, my heart was changed forever. My heart changed to love him differently. It was a deeper, different love that I hadn’t experienced before. He became my cheerleader, my comfort, my saving grace when I was overwhelmed. I saw it again when we had Lennyn, and I see it over and over every day watching him be a Daddy. He was meant to be a daddy and he is a good one.
He Is a Girl Dad and a Damn Good One
Not once has he ever said he wishes we had a boy. Not once. Not even when people say something about him paying for his raising with two girls, and that he is IN FOR IT. He loves it. He loves his girls, and his girls couldn’t love him any more. He is the fun one, the loving one, the nurturing one. When I am away, I know that he has everything under control. Sometimes, he is a better parent than I am. He is the perfect Girl Dad. He is teaching by example what his daughters will be looking for in a husband someday. (someday verryyyyyy far away, but we do pray for those future husbands and their parents, too).
He Teaches Me
He is always trying to teach me something, whether I want to learn or not. He tries to get me to to math problems (like I want to do that…haha), reminding me to get gas before it’s close to empty, wants me to learn to use the grill and lawnmower and teaches me just about life when he doesn’t even mean to. He’s smart. He’s smarter than he knows, and he teaches me daily even when he doesn’t know it or have that intention. I am so thankful for that.
He Spoils Me
Even without knowing he spoils me, he does. He knows my love language is surprises and giving to others. When I give him something he doesn’t want, he pretends to use it or like it. When he knows I want something, he gets it. Even when I don’t know I want something, he gets it. It’s not just with physical things, but with life. He spoils me by giving me more time than I need alone. He tells me to go take a bath when I’m almost on the verge of tears. He comforts me and watches a movie with my silently when he doesn’t even know that’s what I need. He makes me feel like I’m beautiful and loved.
He Gets More Handsome with Age
This might be true for everyone, I don’t know…but when I look at him I think he is more handsome and hotter than ever. He may just age well, or it may just be my love for him…but he couldn’t be more handsome.
Now, am I saying that marriage is not work? No. Marriage is work, and to be better each day you have to work at it. It goes through seasons just like any other relationship and life change…it isn’t always rainbows and butterflies, and no one should want it to be! Each challenge, season, argument and understanding shapes you into the husband and wife that you are meant to be. We are striving to have the relationship that our kids will someday be looking for in a spouse. We strive to teach them by example; to love deeply and intently.
I loved him long ago, but through 5 years, 2 houses, 1 dog, 2 kids and lots of compromises….I love him more.
And to this day, I am more deeply in love with him than I ever was when we got married. I thought I loved him then….I just can’t imagine the love that I will have for him 5, 10, 50 years from now and I’m incredibly blessed by that love. God knew what he was doing when he gave me you.
‘Cause God gave me you for the ups and downs
God gave me you for the days of doubt
For when I think I’ve lost my way
There are no words here left to say, it’s true
God gave me you, gave me you
Happy 5 year anniversary, love!
Our wedding was beautiful, but our life together is even more beautiful.
Photos by Lissa Anglin Photography.
Read our engagement story HERE.
Read about our wedding and details HERE.
